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“About Financial Abuse” by National Network to End DV

Article about what financial abuse looks like.

Teen Power and Control/Equality Wheels

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a young person might use to abuse their partner, and also what behaviors promote equality and equal power sharing.

Adult Power and Control Wheel

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member.

Ask Ava, Episode 126: “What if I want to break up, but I’m afraid of my partner’s friends?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Live at Lunch – Opening the Door to Safety Through Housing

A video explaining how the Housing First and Financial Empowerment programs at Safe+Sound support survivors.    

Live at Lunch – Safety and Services After a Sexual Assault

A video explaining how the Sexual Assault Response Team supports survivors.    

Live at Lunch – New Protections of the Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act (SASPA)

A video explaining information about a new act protecting survivors.    

Ask Ava, Episode 124: “Can couples counseling heal abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 125: “What if my partner is forcing me to share my social media passwords?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 123: “Do people ever heal from sexual assault?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

“Financial Literacy for Young Learners” (Pre-K-1st Grade) by Crystal of Kreative in LIfe

Resources about financial literacy for young children, recommended by Safe+Sound

“Back to Basics: Debt Management” by Steve Bucci and Mary Reed

Book about financial wellness, recommended by Safe+Sound

“The One-Minute Money Mentor for Women” by Deborah Smith Pegues

Book about financial empowerment, recommended by Safe+Sound

“Zero Debt: The Ultimate Guide to Financial Freedom” by Lynnette Khalfani-Cox

Book about financial wellness and freedom, recommended by Safe+Sound

“A Surprising Path Out of Domestic Abuse: Entrepreneurship”

Article about survivors creating their own businesses

Allstate Foundation Moving Ahead Curriculum

Online self-guided trainings on financial wellness, geared towards survivors of domestic violence.

“Understanding the Impact of Trauma” from “Trauma-Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services”

Article discussing impacts of trauma and how it shows up in people.

Intimate Partner Violence – Child Trauma from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network

Article providing information about domestic/intimate partner violence and how it affects children.

“What is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy?” (EMDR)

Article providing information about EMDR, one form of trauma treatment that Safe+Sound counselors practice with adult survivors.

“What is Prolonged Exposure Therapy?” (PE)

Article providing information about prolonged exposure, one form of trauma treatment that Safe+Sound counselors practice with adult survivors.

Fast Facts: Preventing Intimate Partner Violence, CDC (2022)

An article explaining facts and statistics about intimate partner violence.

Fast Facts: Preventing Teen Dating Violence, CDC (2022)

An article explaining facts and statistics about teen dating violence.

Fast Facts: Preventing Sexual Violence, CDC (2022)

An article explaining facts and statistics about sexual violence.

Siete señales de una relación abusiva

A flyer explaining 7 warning signs of domestic violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

7 Signs of an Abusive Relationship

A flyer explaining 7 warning signs of domestic violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

Ask Ava, Episode 122: “Why do people wait to report sexual assault?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 121: “What if my partner is upset, because I’m friends with my ex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 120: “What if my partner is guilting me into not using birth control?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 119: “What if I experience sexual harassment in the workplace from a boss?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

The Importance of Abortion Rights

A blog post in response to the 2022 overturning of Roe v. Wade     One of the most dangerous times for a victim of domestic violence is during pregnancy. Nearly 20% of individuals experience violence during pregnancy, with pregnant adolescents and those with unintended pregnancies at an increased risk (vawnet). For many, violence begins or escalates during this time and can turn lethal. In fact, homicide is the leading cause of death in pregnancy and the post-partum period –...

Ask Ava, Episode 118: “What does consent look like in a healthy relationship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Parents as Teachers

Website providing information about training for Parents as Teachers, a home visitation program that pairs trained Parent Educators with pregnant women and young families.

Nosotros le Creemos a los Sobrevivientes

A flyer naming different kinds of sexual violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

We Believe Survivors

A flyer naming different kinds of sexual violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

Ask Ava, Episode 117: “What should I do if I don’t trust my partner anymore?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 116: “What if I need help, but I can’t trust any adults in my life?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

One More Amber Heard and Johnny Depp Think Piece

A blog post of S+SS's complete statement around the Amber Heard v. Johnny Depp case as it relates to domestic violence services     We didn’t want to write this piece. The Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard case has been publicly dissected to the point that everyone has their own opinion of who is right or wrong. Even domestic violence survivors are taking different views – many see themselves in Johnny Depp, and others see themselves in Amber Heard. At Safe+Sound Somerset,...

Ask Ava, Episode 115: “How do you help a friend who is used to being abused?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 114: “What can I do if my partner always tells me I’m wrong?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 113: “How do you break up with someone who might fall apart if I leave?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Derechos y Responsibilidades

A handout that establishes language for healthy relationship Rights and Responsibilities, and setting boundaries.

Ask Ava, Episode 112: “What if my partner calls me a tease, because I don’t want to have sex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

The Trauma and Healing of Survivors

A blog post introducing trauma-related services and the long-term effects of trauma     Healing through Trauma-Responsive Counseling The COVID pandemic has significantly impacted mental and emotional health for young and old everywhere. The World Health Organization reports that COVID caused a 25% increase in anxiety and depression worldwide, increasing the needs for all types of mental health services. At Safe+Sound Somerset, we are seeing the impact of the past few years on the mental health of survivors of interpersonal...

Ask Ava, Episode 111: “Was there gaslighting in Taylor Swift’s ‘All Too Well’ music video?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Rights and Responsibilities Handout

A handout that establishes healthy relationship Rights and Responsibilities, language that can be used to create healthy boundaries.

Ask Ava, Episode 110: “Is it relationship abuse, or just a normal fight?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 109: “Do disabled people experience sexual abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 108: “What does rape culture look like?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 107: “What can I do if my friend has been sexually assaulted?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 106: “What services are there for survivors of sexual assault?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 105: “What are some red flags in ‘Twilight?'”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 104: “Do men get abused physically?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

How Media Literacy is Preventing Sexual Violence

A blog post explaining media literacy as a way of understanding the culture of sexual violence and supportive interactive techniques     Safe+Sound Somerset’s newest education program for high school students, Gender and Violence: How Media Shapes Our Culture, aims to prevent sexual abuse and assault among participants. This winter we partnered with Bound Brook High School to present this important 7-week program to their 131 seniors. What is media literacy? Media refers to the different ways that we communicate messages, information,...

Ask Ava, Episode 103: “What can I do if my friend’s partner is pressuring them to have sex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 102: “What can abuse look like for transgender and nonbinary people?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

The Role of Power & Control in Recent Allegations

A blog post explaining the dynamic that power & control has on individuals and their interactions with others     Recently our communities were shocked by the news of a lawsuit filed against law enforcement for alleged sexual assaults spanning many years. The horrifying public details of the allegations of sexual violence have spurred reactions of anger, confusion, and pain throughout our Somerset County community. Regardless of the outcomes, the traumatic impact of the allegations will have a lasting impact. ...

Ask Ava, Episode 101: “How can I stop myself from controlling my partner?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

2022 Safe+Sound Somerset Folleto

A brochure sharing details of Safe+Sound's free services for Somerset County residents.

Ask Ava, Episode 100: “Why is ‘simping’ a harmful term?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 99: “Can abuse happen if you both love each other?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 98: “Why do people stay in abusive relationships?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

TDVAM – Talk About It!

A blog post informing of commonly asked questions and S+SS programs for Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month     February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month (TDVAM), a month dedicated to raising awareness about dating abuse, healthy relationships, and available services. In recognition of TDVAM, Safe+Sound Somerset is encouraging everyone to Talk About It! Teen dating violence is common: 1 in 3 teens will experience dating violence before high school graduation[1]. It’s also serious – teen dating violence victimization is associated with higher...

Ask Ava, Episode 97: “Does what I wear cause sexual violence?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

¿Te Sientes Seguro en tu Relacion?

A flyer describing what "Love is not" and free youth services at Safe+Sound Somerset.

Do You Feel Safe in a Relationship?

A flyer describing what "Love is not" and free youth services at Safe+Sound Somerset.

La Sanación Comienza Aquí

A flyer explaining easy steps for reaching out for Safe+Sound's free sexual violence services.

Healing Begins Here – Sexual Violence Services

A flyer explaining easy steps for reaching out for Safe+Sound's free sexual violence services.

El Amor No Debe Doler – Domestic Violence services

A flyer explaining easy steps for reaching out for Safe+Sound's free domestic violence services.

Love Shouldn’t Hurt – Domestic Violence services

A flyer explaining easy steps for reaching out for Safe+Sound's free domestic violence services.

Ask Ava, Episode 96: “What can intimate partner violence look like for disabled people?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 95: “What is revenge porn, and why is it a big deal?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 94: “What if my partner has heavy trust issues from past relationships?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 93: “What exactly does stalking look like?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 92: “How do you stay safe when you are dating someone new?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 91: “Can someone consent if they are drunk?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

How We Talk About Domestic and Sexual Violence

A blog post that describes forms of trauma, trauma-specific services, and trauma-informed approaches recognized utilized by S+SS     Whenever Safe+Sound Somerset’s SPEAK Outreach and Prevention team hosts workshops, they spend a significant amount of time defining terms and laying a foundation for the language upon which to build learning and understanding taking place. In this article, we begin to define the terms we often use in our work with survivors of domestic and sexual violence. We find that “Getting...

Ask Ava, Episode 90: “Does domestic violence stop over the holidays?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Healing for Survivors of Sexual Assault Begins Here

A blog post introducing S+SS sexual violence resources and definitions     As of October 1st, 2021, Safe+Sound Somerset expanded our trauma-informed services to serve survivors of sexual violence in Somerset County, NJ. For over 40 years, Safe+Sound Somerset has provided a path to safety, hope, and healing for survivors of domestic violence, and now adults and children who have experienced sexual violence have access to the same high-quality services. Sexual Violence is an act of power and control that...

Live At Lunch – Legal Advocacy

A video interview with a Safe+Sound legal advocate, about creating safety for survivors.    

Ask Ava, Episode 89: “What does sexual violence look like in a relationship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 88: “Can I heal my abusive partner?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 87: “What should I do if my partner is only abusive once?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 86: “What does intimidation look like in a relationship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

How Media Talks About Violence Impacts Survivors

A blog post that summaries positive and negative qualities of media exposure surrounding interpersonal violence for survivors.     The media is a huge entity – from news to social media outlets, television to radio stations. The impact of this is that when a topic or event involving violence is trending, it can feel like the violence is everywhere and that we can’t escape it. As a result, the way the media “talks about” or addresses violence has large consequences...

Sexual Assault in Domestic Abuse

A blog post informing about intimate partner sexual violence, with examples and definitions     For over 40 years, Safe+Sound Somerset has provided safety, hope, and healing for survivors of domestic abuse in Somerset County. As of October 1st, 2021, we expanded our mission to also serve survivors of sexual assault with the same high-quality intervention services – 24/7 helpline, Sexual Assault Response Team, advocacy, and counseling – that have been available to survivors of domestic abuse since 1978. We’d like to share with you what exactly...

Ask Ava, Episode 85: “What can I do if my friend is abusing their partner?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 84: “Why do people have trouble believing survivors of abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 83: “Why is it hard for some survivors of abuse to tell their stories?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 82: “Why is emotional abuse so harmful?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Everything You Wanted to Know about Teen Dating Violence and Healthy Relationships

A video and quiz developed by Safe+Sound prevention educators and teen volunteers, for classes/groups or individuals.      

Ask Ava, Episode 81: “What services are available to survivors of abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Why Domestic Violence is a Community Issue

A blog post explaining how DV affects children, family and friends, the workplace, and the community.     Community members often tell us that they see domestic violence as a “private” or “family issue” that only affects the two people in the relationship. The reality is that domestic violence in a relationship affects the whole community. DV can have severe negative impacts on the target of abuse and the broader community, including children, other family members, friends, neighborhoods, and workplaces. The...

Warning Signs of Domestic Violence

A blog post providing a list of abuse warning signs, even when someone is "just joking."     When 1 in 3 women, 1 and 4 men, and 1 in 2 transgender and nonbinary people experience domestic violence in their lifetimes, it affects the whole community. As a result, we need a whole community response to stop abuse! Domestic abuse is a form of violence. It is a pattern of behaviors that one person uses to purposefully gain power and control over...

Ask Ava, Episode 80: “Why is domestic violence a community issue?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 79: Updated! “If a friend treats you badly, should you confront them?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 78: “Does alcohol cause abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Safety Planning for Leaving a Relationship

A blog post explaining tips for safety planning and how it can help, when staying in, leaving, or after a relationship ends.     Many people in our community think that, as the lead agency for domestic violence response in Somerset County, we should encourage people to leave abusive relationships. It’s a common, valid response to violence. However, the issue of leaving is not that clear cut. We understand that every survivor’s journey is different, so we work with them to find safety no matter where they are in their journey. We don’t encourage anyone to stay...

Helping by Changing the Conversation

A blog post advocating a change from "Why don't you leave?" to "How can I support you?"     When family or friends call the Safe+Sound Somerset hotline or talk to us at community events, they often ask, “How they can I get my loved one or friend to leave their violent relationship?” They also wonder, “Why don’t they listen to me?” There are many reasons people don’t leave abusive relationships – love, finances, staying to keep children with both...

Ask Ava, Episode 77: “What can I do if my partner is blackmailing me?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 76: “How do I know I have a healthy friendship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.