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Ask Ava, Episode 140: “What if my partner is guilting me into paying for all of our dates?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Domestic Violence Fact Sheets – NCADV

Statistics and information on domestic violence in many different communities. List and fact sheets towards bottom of the page. Presented by National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV).

Infographics on Stalking by SPARC

Link to website with many different handouts, featuring statistics about high rates of stalking in different communities and myths vs. facts. By the Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC)

Deaf Power and Control Wheel

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member. This wheel is specific to Deaf folks, from the organization DeafHope.

Trans-Specific Power and Control Tactics

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member. This list is specific to transgender folks.

Post-Separation Power and Control Wheel

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member. This wheel is specific to separated partners.

Video: Ask Ava, Episode 131 – “What if someone keeps asking me out after I said ‘no?'”

Video version of Ask Ava podcast episode, geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Video – Ask Ava, Episode 130: “If we talk about having sex before we start drinking, is it still consensual?”

Video version of Ask Ava podcast episode, geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Video: Ask Ava, Episode 129 – “What if my partner is pressuring me to pay them back with sex?”

A video version of the Ask Ava podcast episode, geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Video: “Dear Ava, What can teens expect when visiting the hospital after a sexual assault?”

Video version of special Ask Ava podcast episode, geared towards teens and those who care about teens. In this episode, our youth volunteer Ella interviews Melissa Inzitari, Forensic Nurse Examiner and Sexual Assault Response Team (SART) Coordinator for Somerset County, NJ.

Video – “Dear Ava, Can I get help from the hospital if I experienced sexual assault while drinking?”

Video version of special Ask Ava podcast episode, geared towards teens and those who care about teens. In this episode, our youth volunteer Ella interviews Melissa Inzitari, Forensic Nurse Examiner and Sexual Assault Response Team (SART) Coordinator for Somerset County, NJ.

Video: Ask Ava, Episode 128 – “How does the Sexual Assault Response Team support teens?”

Video version of special Ask Ava podcast episode, geared towards teens and those who care about teens. In this episode, our youth volunteer Ella interviews Melissa Inzitari, Forensic Nurse Examiner and Sexual Assault Response Team (SART) Coordinator for Somerset County, NJ.

Planificación de seguridad para adolescentes

A handout explaining options for teens to stay safe from abusive partners in school, at home, and online. English version here.

Ask Ava, Episode 139: “What can I do if my partner makes me feel trapped in the relationship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Domestic Violence and Faith – article

Article describing how a person may use faith to abuse their partner or family member, from National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV).

List of Power and Control Wheels

A list of power and control and equality wheel handouts that show common tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member. Many different communities are represented. From the National Center on Domestic and Sexual Violence (NCDSV).

Power and Control Wheel – People with Disabilities in Partner Relationships

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member. This wheel is specific to disabled folks in relationships (and can also apply to caregiver situations).

What To Do If You Are Being Stalked

A website listing tips for those experiencing stalking, along with logs for documenting what happens. From Stalking, Prevention, Awareness and Resource Center (SPARC).

Stalking and Domestic Violence infographic

An infographic with statistics about stalking and domestic violence by the Stalking, Prevention, Awareness and Resource Center (SPARC).

Stalking and Intimate Partner Violence video

A short video explaining what stalking can look like with a partner or ex-partner, from the Stalking, Prevention, Awareness and Resource Center (SPARC). Geared towards adults/professionals.

Circulo de Poder y Control para Personas dentro de Relaciones Lésbicas, Gay, Bisexual y Transgenero

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member, specific to the LGBTQ+ community. From TheHotline.org.

LGBTQ+ Power and Control Wheel

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member, specific to the LGBTQ+ community. From Love is Respect.

Ask Ava, Episode 138: “What if you sexually harass someone by accident?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 137: “What if my friend is being distant now that they’re in a relationship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 136: “How do I tell my friends I’m being abused, if they are friends with my abuser?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 135: “How do you know your partner feels uncomfortable if they hide it?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 134: “What if my partner is pressuring me to skip class or drop out?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 133: “Why does my friend keep going back to their toxic ex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 132: “How many people lie about abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 131: “What if someone keeps asking me out after I said ‘no?'”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 130: “If we talk about having sex before we start drinking, is it still consensual?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Ask Ava, Episode 129: “What if my partner is pressuring me to pay them back with sex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

People with Disabilities and Domestic Violence Fact Sheet

2022 Fact sheet presented by National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV). Includes statistics and information about abuse.

Ask Ava, Episode 128: “How does the Sexual Assault Response Team support teens?”

A special longer podcast interview - episode is geared towards teens and those who care about teens. Watch the video version here on YouTube:

Ask Ava, Episode 127: “If I’m 14 and have sex with a 16-year-old, is that rape?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.

Elementary School Bullying Power and Control Wheel

A handout that explains different ways bullying takes away power and control. Recommended for 4th to 6th grade with teacher/parent support.

Middle School Bullying/Dating Abuse Power and Control Wheel

A handout that establishes language for healthy friendship and relationship Rights and Responsibilities, and setting boundaries. Recommended grades 6-8.

Círculo de poder y control y igualdad para los adolescentes

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a young person might use to abuse their partner, and also what behaviors promote equality and equal power sharing.

Círculo de Poder y Control

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member.

DIY Cybersecurity for Domestic Violence (Survivors)

Website discussing common situations of cyberstalking and social media harassment that partners, ex-partners, friends, etc. may use. Also includes defense strategies, or ways to protect yourself.

A Love Letter to Survivors and Those Living with Violence or Abuse

To all survivors and anyone living with violence or abuse – you are more than worthy of love, of joy, of thriving. Whatever your experience is, please know that you are resilient. Because when we’re experiencing abuse, just getting to the next day takes resilience. Let’s dismantle the notion that healing happens only after abuse ends. You can be in pain and healing all at the same time, because healing is not linear. Whatever you are experiencing now, you can...

We Believe Survivors!

Article outlining Safe+Sound Somerset's philosophy of believing survivors and encouraging everyone to join in taking action to end violence once and for all.

“About Financial Abuse” by National Network to End DV

Article about what financial abuse looks like.

Teen Power and Control/Equality Wheels

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a young person might use to abuse their partner, and also what behaviors promote equality and equal power sharing.

Adult Power and Control Wheel (English)

A tool that shows common power and control tactics a person might use to abuse their partner or family member.

Ask Ava, Episode 126: “What if I want to break up, but I’m afraid of my partner’s friends?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Live at Lunch – Opening the Door to Safety Through Housing

A video explaining how the Housing First and Financial Empowerment programs at Safe+Sound support survivors.    

Live at Lunch – Safety and Services After a Sexual Assault

A video explaining how the Sexual Assault Response Team supports survivors.    

Live at Lunch – New Protections of the Sexual Assault Survivor Protection Act (SASPA)

A video explaining information about a new act protecting survivors.    

Ask Ava, Episode 124: “Can couples counseling heal abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 125: “What if my partner is forcing me to share my social media passwords?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 123: “Do people ever heal from sexual assault?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

“Financial Literacy for Young Learners” (Pre-K-1st Grade) by Crystal of Kreative in LIfe

Resources about financial literacy for young children, recommended by Safe+Sound

“Back to Basics: Debt Management” by Steve Bucci and Mary Reed

Book about financial wellness, recommended by Safe+Sound

“The One-Minute Money Mentor for Women” by Deborah Smith Pegues

Book about financial empowerment, recommended by Safe+Sound

“Zero Debt: The Ultimate Guide to Financial Freedom” by Lynnette Khalfani-Cox

Book about financial wellness and freedom, recommended by Safe+Sound

“A Surprising Path Out of Domestic Abuse: Entrepreneurship”

Article about survivors creating their own businesses

Allstate Foundation Moving Ahead Curriculum

Online self-guided trainings on financial wellness, geared towards survivors of domestic violence.

“Understanding the Impact of Trauma” from “Trauma-Informed Care in Behavioral Health Services”

Article discussing impacts of trauma and how it shows up in people.

Intimate Partner Violence – Child Trauma from the National Child Traumatic Stress Network

Article providing information about domestic/intimate partner violence and how it affects children.

“What is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy?” (EMDR)

Article providing information about EMDR, one form of trauma treatment that Safe+Sound counselors practice with adult survivors.

“What is Prolonged Exposure Therapy?” (PE)

Article providing information about prolonged exposure, one form of trauma treatment that Safe+Sound counselors practice with adult survivors.

Fast Facts: Preventing Intimate Partner Violence, CDC (2022)

An article explaining facts and statistics about intimate partner violence.

Fast Facts: Preventing Teen Dating Violence, CDC (2022)

An article explaining facts and statistics about teen dating violence.

Fast Facts: Preventing Sexual Violence, CDC (2022)

An article explaining facts and statistics about sexual violence.

Siete señales de una relación abusiva

A flyer explaining 7 warning signs of domestic violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

7 Signs of an Abusive Relationship

A flyer explaining 7 warning signs of domestic violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

Ask Ava, Episode 122: “Why do people wait to report sexual assault?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 121: “What if my partner is upset, because I’m friends with my ex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 120: “What if my partner is guilting me into not using birth control?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 119: “What if I experience sexual harassment in the workplace from a boss?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

The Importance of Abortion Rights

A blog post in response to the 2022 overturning of Roe v. Wade     One of the most dangerous times for a victim of domestic violence is during pregnancy. Nearly 20% of individuals experience violence during pregnancy, with pregnant adolescents and those with unintended pregnancies at an increased risk (vawnet). For many, violence begins or escalates during this time and can turn lethal. In fact, homicide is the leading cause of death in pregnancy and the post-partum period –...

Ask Ava, Episode 118: “What does consent look like in a healthy relationship?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Parents as Teachers

Website providing information about training for Parents as Teachers, a home visitation program that pairs trained Parent Educators with pregnant women and young families.

Nosotros le Creemos a los Sobrevivientes

A flyer naming different kinds of sexual violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

We Believe Survivors

A flyer naming different kinds of sexual violence and information about the Safe+Sound helpline.

Ask Ava, Episode 117: “What should I do if I don’t trust my partner anymore?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 116: “What if I need help, but I can’t trust any adults in my life?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

One More Amber Heard and Johnny Depp Think Piece

A blog post of S+SS's complete statement around the Amber Heard v. Johnny Depp case as it relates to domestic violence services     We didn’t want to write this piece. The Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard case has been publicly dissected to the point that everyone has their own opinion of who is right or wrong. Even domestic violence survivors are taking different views – many see themselves in Johnny Depp, and others see themselves in Amber Heard. At Safe+Sound Somerset,...

Ask Ava, Episode 115: “How do you help a friend who is used to being abused?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 114: “What can I do if my partner always tells me I’m wrong?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 113: “How do you break up with someone who might fall apart if I leave?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Derechos y Responsibilidades

A handout that establishes language for healthy relationship Rights and Responsibilities, and setting boundaries. For teens to adults.

Ask Ava, Episode 112: “What if my partner calls me a tease, because I don’t want to have sex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

The Trauma and Healing of Survivors

A blog post introducing trauma-related services and the long-term effects of trauma     Healing through Trauma-Responsive Counseling The COVID pandemic has significantly impacted mental and emotional health for young and old everywhere. The World Health Organization reports that COVID caused a 25% increase in anxiety and depression worldwide, increasing the needs for all types of mental health services. At Safe+Sound Somerset, we are seeing the impact of the past few years on the mental health of survivors of interpersonal...

Ask Ava, Episode 111: “Was there gaslighting in Taylor Swift’s ‘All Too Well’ music video?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Rights and Responsibilities – English

A handout that establishes healthy relationship Rights and Responsibilities, language that can be used to create healthy boundaries. For teens to adults.  

Ask Ava, Episode 110: “Is it relationship abuse, or just a normal fight?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 109: “Do disabled people experience sexual abuse?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 108: “What does rape culture look like?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 107: “What can I do if my friend has been sexually assaulted?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 106: “What services are there for survivors of sexual assault?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 105: “What are some red flags in ‘Twilight?'”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 104: “Do men get abused physically?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

How Media Literacy is Preventing Sexual Violence

A blog post explaining media literacy as a way of understanding the culture of sexual violence and supportive interactive techniques     Safe+Sound Somerset’s newest education program for high school students, Gender and Violence: How Media Shapes Our Culture, aims to prevent sexual abuse and assault among participants. This winter we partnered with Bound Brook High School to present this important 7-week program to their 131 seniors. What is media literacy? Media refers to the different ways that we communicate messages, information,...

Ask Ava, Episode 103: “What can I do if my friend’s partner is pressuring them to have sex?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

Ask Ava, Episode 102: “What can abuse look like for transgender and nonbinary people?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

The Role of Power & Control in Recent Allegations

A blog post explaining the dynamic that power & control has on individuals and their interactions with others     Recently our communities were shocked by the news of a lawsuit filed against law enforcement for alleged sexual assaults spanning many years. The horrifying public details of the allegations of sexual violence have spurred reactions of anger, confusion, and pain throughout our Somerset County community. Regardless of the outcomes, the traumatic impact of the allegations will have a lasting impact. ...

Ask Ava, Episode 101: “How can I stop myself from controlling my partner?”

A short podcast episode geared towards teens and those who care about teens.      

2022 Safe+Sound Somerset Folleto

A brochure sharing details of Safe+Sound's free services for Somerset County residents.